This is the second installment of a new blog series. I'm asking the same three questions of all my couples after their wedding is over...and the dust has settled. Hopefully their words will assist those of you who are in the planning stages - and to give you some perspective in, what can be, a hectic time - but a fun and exciting time too!
1) What is the stand out moment from your day?
Emily
It's surprising how little specific details I remember from my wedding. If I think really hard, I can recall most of the ceremony and reception, but I remember just the feeling of being really happy. I was happy for my family and friends, that they were able to share in this event with David and I. Of course, I was happy to be marrying David; but I'm always so happy when we're together. This day was really about my family and friends. That being said, the moment I remember the most was when David and I were under the chuppah and we closed our eyes and pressed our foreheads together. The rabbi made sure that we had a moment during the ceremony that was just about us; it was so spiritual and loving and I'm so grateful that he gave us that moment.
David
Probably when I first saw her in her wedding dress at the Kettubah signing, that was the best moment.
2) How was your wedding day different than you expected it to be?
Emily
I think I expected the day to be all about me and David, but I spent almost the whole day thinking about everyone else--making sure I saw and spoke to everyone, seeing if people liked the food, and dancing with my friends. I also expected the day to be this perfect, romantic Hallmark image, and it was, but it was also filled with humor and improvisation. It was also less stressful than I expected, but I think that's because I resolved to have a hands-off approach from the moment I started planning my wedding.
David
It was the first time I got married, so I didn't really expect anything. Dude, it's a party.
3) Any words of advice for engaged couples embarking on the planning process?
Emily
Trust your vendors and be kind to them. Everyone works so hard to make your wedding beautiful and memorable--from the florist to the baker to the photographer. It's important to remember that your vendors are professionals who have done this a million times; trust them to make your wedding beautiful (you will make it special). If you want to keep your sanity (and your future husband), you should try to keep a hands-off approach--delegate, delegate, delegate. Let other people help you, listen to other people's advise, and go with your gut. In the end, go with whatever makes you happy--even if you never thought you'd wear lace or have an orange-flavored wedding cake.
Have a sense of humor and keep some perspective. It's just about having fun with your friends, family, and new spouse.
